So you are “The Boss” and probably very aware of the challenges you face with your team to achieve the results expected of you.
You are also aware that working relationships are essential for a well-run business, harmonious team and great rapport with your direct reports.
Although you may have this awareness, it may just stop there. Having awareness is wonderful, but having working practices and tactics in place to continue and build upon that awareness is essential.
Here are 3 simple tips to use in order to incorporate a positive employer-employee relationship in the workplace based on demonstrating the un-bossy boss approach through showing your team that you have a humanistic side.
1. Give and Take
For any relationship to be positive and productive there has to be some give and take. While you may need to direct and put a little more pressure on an employee with an objective, assignment, project or looming deadline, it is also a good idea to reciprocate after that “pressure phase” and the task has been successfully met.
A quick lunch outside the office is all it will take to let an employee know that you regard him or her in a positive light. You could even allow a little time back for them to spend quality time with friends and family.
Create a list of the pay-backs to use with individuals in your team in the future.
The actual “Giving Back” does require some underlying knowledge as to what would most likely give that particular person the incentive and motivation to want to perform just as efficiently in the future. If people know that pressure leads to settlement… then they will be prepared, more resilient and willing to immerse their head into the pool of pressure in the future.
2. Be an Active Listener
Make time, book time and release time to be available to listen to your employees, even if it is only 15 minutes over a cup of coffee in-between meetings. This demonstrates that you are interested in them and their opinion.
Remember to listen carefully to what is being said rather than what you want to say next.
Active listening is when you listen to what someone is not saying too, as opposed to all that they are saying. Actively listening for the underlying message through non-verbal cues is all it takes to have a meaningful and insightful conversation.
Allow 80% of the communication to come from them by facilitating the conversation with really good questions and summarising / concluding.
Always leave these conversations on a positive so that your employee is left feeling good and looking forward to the next one.
3. Take an Interest
To some of the Bossy-Bosses out there, employees are just moneymaking machines, objects, numbers or worker bees.
Never lose sight of the fact that your employees are human beings that have real families and real life issues and challenges too. When you take an active interest and inquire as to how they, or their families are, you take an interest in your people that is far reaching in building your credibility as a boss.
Also, remember that the people who work for you have amazing talents outside of the world of work. By uncovering what these talents are and taking an interest in them you will have a perfect route to finding out what their intrinsic motivations are and how to develop that talent in the workplace.
At Ican Development we can help Managers not only become more self-aware but also provide powerful feedback on what they can do to become the Un-Bossy Boss.
One of the most powerful tools for doing this is the Life Styles Inventory by Human Synergistics. You can find more info on it here.